Complicated world sex: for some the same things that can be magical and horrible can cause fear, embarrassment and even trauma for others. These emotions can make it difficult to ask questions, clarify wrong ideas, and most people are aroused by strange mistrust and sexual myths about something they don’t feel comfortable with.
Many of the feelings we feel about sex and whether or not we feel embarrassed are related to the experiences we create in education that was discussed in sex or through personal exploration. Other common feelings arise with the attunement to the morality we perceive around our sexual act and the way our behaviors align with those beliefs. It’s a complicated and very personal topic. Intense emotions about what is right and wrong are also easily aroused when we talk about sex. Have you ever noticed how people love to complete things about sex? It’s usually a juicy “cross-border issue,” so many myths and misconceptions are born.
Let’s clarify the persistent misunderstandings that you weren’t so sure about from the high school lunch table. It is very late! It’s time to free your brain from some of those “I wonder …”
Myth 1: Your vagina can be “stretched” or “released” and never go back.
Having a lot of sexual partners (or maybe more than one), having a baby, a well-equipped couple, or having the idea of having rough sex, people like to talk about the vagina as it is delicate and can be easily damaged forever, it has never been extended to return to “normalcy” .
Glad you know this is not a thing! The thing is that people feel bad about enjoying or finding women pleasure having sex with more than one partner in life or fearing the birth of a woman.
The vagina is incredibly adaptable and this myth only speaks anatomically. The tissue in the vaginal canal is made up of something called “rugae”. Vaginal wrinkles are accordion-shaped tissue folds that are designed to stretch, open, and adjust babies and penises without “ruining” the vagina. So don’t worry, your vagina is as pretty as it always has been, built to withstand birth, sex, fun, etc., and then back to where it once was (after a baby can spend weeks). Thank you for the good body design.
Myth # 2: Only penetrative sex is what a woman needs for orgasm.
That would be nice and everything … but it’s not that easy. We women are complex creatures, right? If it’s not that easy for you, you’re not alone.
In fact, most women have no experience orgasm during penetrative sex – the clitoris must be stimulated to have orgasms.
It doesn’t mean that in penetrative sex the clitoris can’t be stimulated at the same time, giving you and your partner what you need at the same time, but anatomically that’s not so easy for some people and others depending on the high or low clitoris. with respect to the opening of the vagina. If getting an orgasm is something that doesn’t happen to you often in sex, consider making more prejudices, love, slowing down, and asking your partner to focus on what counts. For women, that’s your clitoris. Am I alone or could we think of a more appealing word?
Myth 3: It is normal for sex to hurt (even if only slightly).
It’s time to leave that myth in the rearview mirror. Bada sex is painful there are many ways to change for you and it is completely no normal. You don’t have to be a martyr and you have to function, right? Certainly, sometimes depending on where you are in the cycle or how long your vagina or partner’s penis is, having certain “too deep” positions can cause discomfort, requiring readjustment for deeper penetration, but that should be an easy fix and fix the problem.
Regular pinching, pulling, stabbing, hitting, pain, burning, or bleeding it is not normal.
To get started, arrange a trip to a gynecologist or midwife in your area to get help with this problem. If your concern is not taken seriously, then you need a new provider. However, make sure that most providers know and learn well in these types of topics. You can receive tests on sexually transmitted diseases to make sure there is no inflammation that causes pain, and you will also receive a pelvic exam. If everything seems normal with your lab work and physical examination, the next step would be to ask for a referral. Pelvic floor physiotherapy. Depending on your insurance, you may need a provider to provide a referral or you may refer yourself. Pelvic pain is a great first step to resolving sex. Say no to dealing with that!
Myth 4: If I don’t get enough vaginal lubrication during sex, I’m not turned on (or something happens to me.)
The myth that women who are not “wet” are not aroused is not entirely true.
Partners often associate vaginal moisture with “how they’re doing” when it comes to satisfying a couple in bed, often when they’re not 100% connected.
Vaginal lubrication; how and what your body produces is also different for everyone. There is no “right amount.” Where you are in the cycle, how much you play before sex games and whether you are in hormonal birth control are also factors for “wetting”. Sometimes after a long sex session, your vaginal lubrication can’t continue with the task and you may need to bring outside help (okay, there’s nothing wrong). If you have curiosity and want to delve deeper into science, I like it a lot This article from the company that makes my favorite app to keep track of my time: Clues. That’s something you need to know without getting too involved in science communication it is essential.
1. If you need more stimulation or prejudice to get enough vaginal moisture to make sex feel good for you – talk about it!
2. bazaar birth-Control and always struggling with vaginal moisture, a hormonal side effect is likely and it will be helpful to have a useful dandy bottle of lubricant to make sex more enjoyable. It’s all right. Inform your partner that it is a side effect of protecting against pregnancy. Not biggie.
3. If you don’t drill so much into this side effect, check out my article here about non-hormonal birth control“Perhaps you want to change?”
If you notice that you never feel it in the process you try and never get much moisture, consider emotional health, breastfeeding, birth control, and menopause as helpful factors that can cause low libido. You should feel comfortable with low libido with the help of your therapist or gynecologist.
Sexual health is common health and deserves tender and tender attention.
Myth 5: Blue Balls.
The hard cold truth is that there is no such thing. Can anyone shout this from the high school stands, the boys have been lying there! Scientists and doctors have confirmed that when men do not ejaculate after arousal, the entire erection can also be very minor discomfort, but there is little damage, real “blue” testicles, or severe anxiety or pain. . This is especially true with the effect that women should have never feel guilty for sexual or sexual acts, out of a responsibility to save the man from “pain”. “Blue balls” are likely something created by high school boys to make them laugh. Yikes. Call the ladies.
I hope to dispel at least one myth for readers today!
The more you know about sex, the more comfortable, strong, and powerful you are.
So maybe get out there and share some of these broken myths: Conversation is a great beginner if you feel like a balsam.