Sarah and Kokebnesh they have been in a relationship for five years. One day, on the beach, Koki was put on his knees. Here is their beautiful story …
When did you start planning?
Koki: First, I started looking at the rings. The good thing is that Sara likes to see proposals and rings, so I was taking mental notes. In the end, I ordered one. I sent it to a friend’s house instead of our address. I was deleting the entire history of the internet. I had this double life!
What was your proposal plan?
Koki: I wanted to feel like Princess Sarah. I realized that the way to get a little fascinated was to do a photo shoot. Photographers often ask for our photo for their wallets and social media. So I asked one of my favorite photographers in Hamburg to ask us to do a photo shoot. We decided to meet on the beach.
What happened when you got to the beach?
Koki: The photographer started taking casual photos. I told him to give a clue when he felt the light was right and the moment was right. He would tell me to get my analog camera so I could use it during filming. That was the sign.
Sarah: So Koki went to get the camera. He also had something small in his hand. Is it a camera lens? And then he got on his knees. And it was me, OH MY GOSH !!!
How did that moment feel ?!
Koki: When I got on my knees, I said ‘Sarah’, and all of a sudden all the emotions came up. Her voice was trembling – ‘You’re my home, I love you’ – and I was just sobbing.
Sarah: It was an out-of-body experience. My emotions changed every second. At first I was shocked and then very happy and then emotionally and then I was shocked again, and I liked it, Okay, okay, try to listen.
Koki: Everything happened so fast, and at the same time, time stood still.
Sarah, when did you see the ring?
Sarah: At first, I could only see his face. And then we gave her a kiss, and she said, ‘Ring!’
Koki: We were screaming and hugging.
Sarah: I looked at it and I was like, oh my, it’s perfect.
Then when you told your friends and family, did you have a funny reaction?
Koki: Sara’s parents were beautiful. They are usually German, more reserved, kind and loving, but not so expressive. Her mother had tears in her eyes. And Dad had that smile on his face the whole time, like a big smiling cat.
What about your parents, Koki?
Koki: Unfortunately, it was weird. It was sad that when I first came out my family was supportive; and Sarah seemed to be taken with open arms. Five years later, we live together, we have our weight, we have a dog, and all of a sudden it seemed, oh, shit, is it really serious? I was happy to report the commitment, but their reactions didn’t feel happy or hopeful. At that moment I felt very disconnected.
That’s hard, I’m really sorry.
Koki: My father seems to take our lives as a burden, e.g. Oh, it must be very hard. I liked it, but don’t you see the life we see and how we treat each other? Nothing about this is a burden. There are certainly things that aren’t right for the queer community and we have to fight and have a voice, but for the most part it’s just being in love with a person, so why can’t that be the main thing?
How are your friends?
Koki: You felt their love. In London my cousin was freaking out. When we called, he was eating a burger in a mall, and he said, ‘WHAT !!!!! NO !!!!! WHAT THE HELL !!!!!! ‘
In the end, I would like to ask: what do you love about each other?
Koki: Sarah is one of the funniest people I know. And he will bring out the best in you. He knows your potential, you don’t even know it; if I struggle to believe in myself, it lifts me up. He always has his back and would do anything to protect me. I feel very safe with him.
Sarah: Koki is very sympathetic, she is the prettiest person you will ever meet. She has this big heart and makes everyone feel welcome. He doesn’t even have to try, it comes naturally to him. Everyone loves it.
(During the phone conversation, we were smiling and laughing the whole time – here are two screens!)